Now that the ‘Holidaze’ are over and  2013 is here, many are thinking about change. For individuals engaged in active addiction, this may be a time of reflection;  thinking of a *new* start: a time to end the addiction process. However, as many who have been a part of this ‘recovery process’ before, the statement, “I’ll believe it when I see it” may come to mind.Often times, the statements that we hear from individuals engaged in active addiction may be some of the most painful words to leave that person’s lips. Why? Because, after years of hearing nothing but lies, experiencing deceit, betrayal, and failed recovery, loved ones want nothing more than to hear (and see) the truth. However, the truth isn’t always easy to spot. Even when loved ones THINK they are experiencing the truth, they just aren’t sure. . .As Dr. David Sack mentions in the article,’No Addiction Without Lies, No Recovery Without Truth’, recovery calls for ‘rigorous honesty’. But lies and truth are both a part of the addiction/recovery process. Making that change to embrace recovery requires rigorous honesty, patience, trust, love and commitment from both the individual as well as from loved ones. It is important to remember that change does not happen overnight.  Loved ones must also remember that the behavior pattern the individual engaged in while in active addiction did not just happen overnight either.Active addiction breaks the bond of trust in ALL relationships: family, intimate relationships, friendships and even those relationships we develop at work. Active addiction builds a wall between people. It allows the individual in active addiction to remain active. As one recovery mantra states, ‘Our secrets keep us sick’. In other words, for those in active addiction, those ‘secrets’ (read: lies) allow individuals grappling with addiction to continue ‘doing that thing they do’.Unfortunately, recovery often comes at a price. For the individual in recovery, that price may be the school of hard knocks, the loss of relationships and jobs, hitting bottom, and even sometimes a near-death experience. Recovery requires change and as we know: CHANGE IS HARD! However, we also know that staying ‘stuck’ eventually becomes too painful as well. Coming clean in order to get clean may be the first step of many for individuals breaking the addiction cycle.Article: No Addiction Without Lies, No Recovery Without Truth